The Kid Whisperer Podcast Featuring Scott Ervin and Pat Kiely: Episode 26
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I am an elementary school teacher currently on maternity leave for this school year, after a very difficult year last year. When I found your website a couple of months ago, I felt like it had all the answers and structure I’ve been looking for and needing! In my pockets of time, I’ve been reading your book and making a plan for next school year. I feel extremely hopeful and eager to implement everything, but I do have two questions:
What do I do when a student is being distracting (banging on a desk, walking around the room during a lesson, etc) and I’ve given the DLO prompt? Do I let the student keep doing that and wait for the DLO to provide that consequence, which will hopefully help in the future?
My second question is: What if the student completely refuses to participate in the DLO? I don’t just mean he just sits there until he eventually starts doing it, but runs out of the room and out to recess, or something along those lines?
My question has to do with delayed learning opportunities. What do you do if a student completely rips down a bulletin board in the hallway of a school, leaving overturned chairs and pieces of ripped paper from the bulletin board on the floor and refuses to clean it up? The student was told by his teacher that he could go to recess once he cleaned it up. He replied with, “You can’t make me!” and proceeded to run out and play with his friends at recess anyway. Our administration supported him going to recess saying that he needed to “let off steam." How should this be handled?
(PS - He ended up cleaning it up after recess, but was able to skip out on instructional time. To me that reinforced his behavior because not only did he get to go to recess, but he also got to miss class to clean it up.)I live in a neighborhood with a lot of families, and we often end up with other people's children playing at our house. Having all of these playmates is great for my eight-year-old daughter, but not so great for me, because I end up parenting everybody else's kids. Is it appropriate for me to use the same behavior strategies on other people's kids that I use on my own kid? How can I keep a calm house during these playdates without offending their parents?